King’s legacy is a relatable example of how steadfastness, authenticity, and humility can change the world. What we nowadays call emotional intelligence was one of King’s best qualities – advancing social justice without stooping to the level of white supremacy manifesting as sucker punches at deli counters, church bombings by so-called Christians, and other forms of domestic terrorism.
Each of the past four years brought about unique changes. May the year 2019 be what you make it.
Tone deafness impedes getting things done effectively and efficiently. It thwarts efforts to achieve wholeheartedness. Talking over someone elicits confusion, numbness, and exhaustion. It chases active listening out of the room.
We empower those sharing our views and are enlightened by opposing takes. Debates. Brainstorming. Fact finding missions. Such exchanges of ideas are dominated by individuals with teachable spirits – with the expectation disagreements will strengthen us. As Americans, we pride ourselves in these glorious byproducts of Free Speech – a constitutional right afforded every citizen.
We treat the expression of anger as if it is a human failure of epic proportions. We suppress it, attempt to masquerade it, and hold different people to different standards in how they should display it. Why do we do these things?
Arrogance is the personality trait we all loathe in others yet deployed on a moment’s notice to shore up our own inadequacies and (perceived) threats to our ego.
It makes me happy that I understand the meaning of discernment and have reached a point in my life where I exercise it with the responsibility it commands. In doing so, I assess situations for what they are, not what they should be, or I wish they were.
Admittedly, I was an individual who considered those going "off the grid” as self-important wordsmiths. They are trying to make themselves sound so free and adventurous, I would judge. I had no acceptable reason to hold the phrase “off the grid” in contempt. I have learned along my journey of better contextualizing absolutes that different things have different meanings for different people – and it is okay!
A man publicly accused of sexual assault by three women — there may be more — was seated on the highest court in the land by 45 male and five female Senators. He faced accusations of repeated bouts of public intoxication, belligerence, and attempted rape as a young adult. Some of Dr. Blasey Ford's worst critics probably see standing up to Brett Kavanaugh in her testifying before the Senate Judiciary Committee as the epitome of selling out the white race – siding with them. How dare she not fall in line, they seethe.